As I sit and think about the last time, I did laundry I realized that it took me 6 hours to do laundry. Yes, you read that correctly; it took me 6 hours to complete my laundry on that day. I had 2 baskets of laundry waiting to be folded before I even start washing the laundry that had piled up throughout the week. I was in a mood and it wasn’t a happy mood. Who really wants to dedicate that much time to doing laundry? I sat there and folded basket after basket and by the time I made it to what felt like the 5thbasket of laundry I decided to turn on one of my Spotify playlist and the first song that came on is a song that puts a smile on my face each time and makes me start to do a little dancing and that is J.Cole-Fold Clothes. For some of my J. Cole fans I know that this 4 Your Eyez Only album was not a favorite, but I loved it and especially this song.
In this song J.Cole talks about how he walks in the living room and he saw his lady laying on the couch taking a nap and he knows that she has lots of things on her to-do list and so he thinks about how he can help her out so he grabs a laundry basket and starts to fold the laundry for her. Every time I hear that it sends a chill down my spine. If that isn’t love I don’t know what is. How many men do you know are willing to go and grab that laundry out the dryer and start folding it? Now for some of you this could mean absolutely nothing, but for others like myself it speaks volume. Some of you may have heard about this book or even heard about the quiz that people talk about, but it is called “The 5 Love languages”. For those of you who test high in acts of service this says a lot. The act of your spouse or significant other doing something without you asking for it to be done can speak volumes to us whose love language is acts of service.
For those of you who still aren’t convinced take a stroll with me in my daydreams. Close your eyes and imagine this. You wake up on Sunday morning, your last day off before getting back to work on Monday. You wake up and the house is still quiet which lets you know that everyone is still asleep, so you decide to get up and make yourself some coffee and your favorite breakfast. You did this done and as you get ready to sit down you just know that someone is going to come around the corner wanting something to eat, but nope, their all still asleep. So, you eat in peace. You figure why not take full advantage of this alone time, so you decide that you’re going to get in a quick round of yoga. You quietly go into your room and throw on some quick workout clothes and head toward the garage to get your yoga mat and yoga blocks. You open the door to your mud room to get to the garage and there are 4 full baskets of clean laundry staring you in the face. This immediately puts a halt on your plans. You don’t even open the door to the garage to get that mat and blocks because you need to start folding these clothes. Not only do you have your dirty laundry that has to be washed from the week, but now the house is awake and one of your kids has just had an accident so now that is an extra load of laundry that has to be done. Now open your eyes and lets back to reality. In that moment do you wish J. Cole came walking through that door to fold those clothes and throw the other clothes in the laundry as well?
Self-Care is something that we all need and deserve, and this is why partnership in these tasks are important. These little gestures and notions can be the key and main ingredient to some happiness in your home. If you have not heard this song, I highly recommend you listen to it as soon as your done reading this blog. Tell your partner or spouse that for your birthday you want them to grab the basket and take the clothes out the dryer and fold them for you. I hope you all enjoyed this blog and as always have a great Self-Care Sundaze.